Tuesday, February 3, 2009

Power of friends. (part 1)

I have a friend who is very close to me.We have been friends for almost 11 years now and are practically brothers.I'm trying to set a context for what follows next.So bear with my nonsense.

In 2006,we took a trip to las vegas on the 4th of the July weekend.For some reason and personal egos, we fought like animals and the whole trip was one big mess.Fortunately, after returning we both had the sense to drop the matter and move on.We never discussed further on what went wrong and instead chose to just ignore it as if it never happened.

Now I don't want to analyze as to who was guilty since I now believe that the reason for fight was so trivial that there should not have been one in the first place.

Now, life has taken both of us to different places and we meet once in a year or two.We are still close through internet.One night it just stuck me that things shouldn't have turned out the way it is.I don't know how long or if ever we can steal time from this busy life to spend some time together.So I just mailed him the regret and pain I felt since I couldn't bring myself to call him and tell him.He was online and responded and we had a nice chat where we cleared out lot of things.I feel close to my friend again.



Here goes....



(this poem is dedicated to my friend)
Even though we were mad @ each other,my friend helped me that day by just being there and without he himself knowing.

Never forget that your mere presence can inspire someone.

It took me around two years to thank him for this.
I hope it's not too late in your case too.

The reason I post this is:

I want to remind myself the damages which ego can cause.

It's never late to accept mistakes.Though it might be too late to correct it,the mere act of accepting it (even if only to yourself) will make you a better person.

I just want to be a better person.

I hope somebody else will realize from my experience.


Next post:The actual mail and chat transcript that led to this post.All the dirty details.!!

8 comments:

Paul Maurice Martin said...

It's great you talked it out. Your post not only speaks to friendship, but to the whole area of things we should tell others but often never get around to doing.

suzi said...

What a excellent post of the human element in all its reality to share here! wide open space didn't find an ounce of ego flaunting through your words, but a forgiveness feeling all around including the self first.... way to write truth!! way to give in friendship! a domino has struck, may the collapse of ego begin... and a wonderful poem full of feeling and depth to cast just a bit more faith that ego can find the open door to light and work in the way it was created to work... a most enjoyable experience. Suzi a/k/a poeticallyignited

DESPERADO said...

An interesting blog. Experienced full gamot of emotions. Be well in Bliss.
dc

DESPERADO said...

paul:thx.it actually took me 3 yrs to be able to share this with my frnd.

suzi: i'm honored by your comment.

dc:thx.

dcrelief said...

Desperado: I am letting you know that you inspire me. Humbly yours.

The Buddhist Conservative said...

It's interesting that so often when we look back in clarity at the reasons for our heated arguments how trivial the cause was.

Too often, relationships end over the most ridiculous of things with both parties loosing.

Excellent post!

Namaste,
Roger

DESPERADO said...

dc:I'm verrrry happy and humbled.

TBC:True.we lose a lot just because of our ego.Really a sad thing.

DESPERADO said...

"the song played on.The water went low."

This refers to the bellagio musical fountain.The song which played that day was 'My heart will go on'.

The day was 4th of July weekend sunday of 2006.

"I walk the lonely roads,the only one that I've ever known."